Thursday 28 February 2013

Why LDR can be totally rock ?



1 You always have something to look forward to.

2. You can schedule in lots of  'me' time.

3. You can avoid ' girlfriends feel neglected ' syndrome by spending more time with the ladies.

4. Hot phone sex.

5. You do not have to be constantly worrying about shaving/waxing/looking perfect down south.

6. There is much lesser things to fight about.

7. You have time to plan fun dates, and get super pumped for them.

8. You have plenty of time to shop for, and put together, cute outfits to wear on your   spaced-out dates.

9. You know you are going to get laid when your dude ( or you ) comes home.
 
10. Absense makes the heart (or the private parts) grow fonder.

11. You will never feel suffocated by your loved one.

12. You can focus on your work.

13. You can flirt without him cramping your style.

14. You will have no other choice but to make the time you do spend together fun and drama-free.

15. You will have more time to spend on ur friends and family.

16. You can write sweet long-distance love songs.

17. You can have passionate, make-out filled goodbye sessions.

18. You can save money by not going out to dinner and movies all the time.

19. You can write romantic love letters to each other.

20. You will have fewer, but better, orgasm.

Long distance relationship


Long distance relationship tips



Find out if your love is trueIf you do not want to regret things later, it is better to find out that your partner is serious about you. This way you have not invested too much in a long distance relationsihp that is not going to work. You have to realize that such relationships can be tough on your psyche, as there are always numerous doubts. If you can’t handle it, it is better to end it now. Learn to discern between mere physical infatuation and attraction with actual love before you commit.


Talk on phone
Communication is essential to most relationships and long distance romance needs it even more. By talking/chatting to each other regularly, you will know what each of you is thinking and feeling. It is also one of the best ways to make the person know that you care and this will lead to the most important element in a relationship – Trust!


Share mutual interests
For a relationship to blossom, it is vital for the couple to want to do things that they both enjoy, together. This is what can help the relationship work in the long run. This will also help you chart out future plans and this way you can both work towards making this happen as often as possible.


Meet as often as you can
It is just not the same when you keep in touch over phone or the webcam, a relationship needs to touch base by personal meetings. Love is not just about the chemistry you once had, it is equally important to keep the flames going or things can become stale. This requires work and for that you need to plan on getting together as often as possible.


Be honest with each other
When you are in a long-term relationship it is vital that you do not lie to each other. Lies have the habit of coming to light at the most unfortunate times and biting you. Make sure that if you have slipped up and done something your partner may not like, he/she hears it from you.


Have a special thing to do together
When you are apart from each other it is but natural to feel a little insecure. It becomes important that you have something special that you share only with your partner. It could be something each knows that the other will only do with her/him.


 

Learn to be independent
When you are away from your lover, it is equally important to have your own thing to do. This way you will not be too clingy and have interesting things to share every time you meet. This is not only vital for long-term relationships but true for all relationships.


Accept that things will change
Things are going to be different when you are apart and you need to accept this. People are always growing up and this can be good. It need not necessarily mean that you are growing apart; it just means that the relationship is evolving and maturing.


 

Do not let other people into the equation
Long distance relationsihps are tough enough without letting others putting in their two cents worth. When you let yourself listen to well-meaning friends and interfering colleagues, you are going to end up over thinking and messing things up. Only you know the reality of your relationship and let us keep it like that and not let other mess things.


Make firm plans for the future
It is all well that you have a long distance relationship, but you need to plan on getting together permanently in the future, for it to truly work. Make firm plans for making this happen and work towards this goal.

Wednesday 27 February 2013

Long distance relationship phychology


In our modern world, long distance relationsihps are becoming more and more prevalent, as the increasing need for close global relations takes a toll on many people's personal lives. As the concept of travelling for business becomes more and more of an everday norm, it is almost a prerequisite for modern relationships to undergo some form of a long distance relationship at some point in their existence.


Distance is what you make of it
A huge part of having a successful long distance relationship is the ability of the couple to 'cross' the distance. In the physical sense, this can mean how often you get to visit each other. This obviously depends on your financial means, as well as the amount of physical
distance between you.

However, this is just one facet of the long distance relationship. Two people can be an ocean and a continent apart, yet somehow still continue to be as close as they were when they were together in person. This all has to do with how you perceive the relationship and how much you communicate. Tell yourself that distance is just distance, but it is what you feel for each other and your commitment to each other that defy this separation.


Ban any unrealistic expectations
The effect of distance on a couple is very much linked with the expectations they have for a long distance relationship. Usually, expectations should correlate with the length and strength of your relationship so far. Another contributing factor is how much time you expect to spend apart. For example, if you have been with your partner for two years, it is likely that you would have high expectations going into a long distance relationship, especially on how it will pan out.

On the other hand, if you have been in a relationship with someone for only a couple of months, you should adjust your expectations of what will come out of it accordingly, so you don’t get disappointed. However, that’s not to say that shorter relationships don’t work out once they become long distance, but they do tend to be much more difficult to maintain because the couple will not have known all of the ins and outs of being together as a couple.


Different types of relationships and their survivability 
Couples that are used to each other and have been for some time may take a sudden separation much harder than a couple that is independent and more casual. This may also be a stressor on the relationship itself once it becomes a long distance one. This is where you need to choose how to mentally prepare yourself.

A solid bond is essential for any long distance relationship to have a chance of working out. Therefore, it is safe to say that relationships based on friendship, trust and open communication stand a much better chance of working out than those based on passion and spontaneity. This is just a general guide as many relationships are a combination of the two. However, it is up to you to evaluate how much you’re committed to each other, how much you trust each other and how well you communicate. Without these three essential elements, any relationship, especially a long distance one, may be rocky at best.



Psychology lessons
A huge aspect of having a successful long distance relationship has to do with both your mindset and your partner’s mindset. In short, a lot of it has to do with psychology and how you mentally deal with the distance. It’s essential to have realistic expectations, especially when it comes to having contact and visits. However, once you are in the right frame of mind, you’re set to try it out and, hopefully, keep it working.

Problems in a long distance relationship

 
Communication
On a chat window, your partner just knows you say hi to him, minus all the emotions and the charm. Well, most people are actually OK with this long distance communication, now that even people who live face to face send emails and chat online. However, with a Long Distance Relationship you rely on third person or ‘something else’ (the technology) for your communication.

If your browser crashes?, if there are server problems with Google, Yahoo, Skype or whatever? or if your web-cam is not working?, you always rely on something else to get your words sent to your partner and if that ‘something’ fails then that leads to depression, anxiety, stress, the feel of distance, misunderstandings and many more things.


Stress
Stress is prevalent in any relationship, but with a Long Distance Relationship the chances that one gets stressed are very high. It is easy to get stressed when there is not enough communication (and especially if you both are willing to communicate but your circumstances don’t permit you to do so). You will also see how stress can easily come in a Long Distance Relationship if you read the following points.


Cheating
This is a crucial factor that leads to ending of many a Long Distance Relationship. There are two possibilities that a Long Distance Relationship breaks due to cheating. (i) There is actually cheating (or) (ii) There is a suspicion on the partner. It is so true that it is very easy to cheat in a Long Distance Relationship.

All the time you have a feeling that your partner is not near you and he/she cannot know the issue. Further, there is lack of personal time with your partner and hence it is more likely that your mind is
tempted to fill up the gap.


Rule setting and breaking
With a Long Distance Relationship everybody has the tendency to set rules. No flirting, no dating, no parties, whatever! But it is also easy to break them. You know your partner is not watching you and it is easy to break one or two (or all of them) rules and just say a lie!

This will develop into a problem in the long run. It is because you cannot go on and on with lies for a long time. You may get caught any time, somehow. This puts a serious threat to the trust in the relationship.


Spying
Due to causes like the opportunity to cheat, insufficient communication, etc. it is easy that anyone easily gets inclined to the idea of spying their partner. By spying I don’t literally mean spying, but I know cases where people get friends who study with their partner.

They also find all possible ways to track what their partner is doing or where they are going by not directly asking the same to their partner. This again, puts threat to the trust in the relationship.


Tuesday 26 February 2013

What is a long distance relationship ?

 
A long distance relationship is a romantic relationship, where each member of the couple lives at a distance from the other. There are also long distance marriages, where a married partner may have to live or work in another city, perhaps returning home every few weeks. In most cases though, long distance relationship is considered a separate thing from long distance marriage.

With the great increases in Internet connectivity, a number of relationships may start out as a long distance relationship. You may meet what seems like the perfect person online, and then early dates may be composed of telephone calls, online chats, texting and emailing. These relationships can be great, but they do come with some risks. It’s hard to say whether a person communicating online is truthful, and eventual meetings between such couples can be disappointing if a person has lied or exaggerated.

Experts on these Internet relationships suggest taking such relationships very slowly, and doing some comprehensive background checking on a person prior to moving to another part of a country. Even first meetings should be conducted in public places to protect yourself from becoming a victim of crime. Make arrangements to spend some time with a person prior to making a commitment to move. With precautions, these long distance relationships can work out, and there are many happy couples who met online.

Friday 22 February 2013

Zodiac Signs and Personalities


1. Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Aries people are creative, adaptive, and insightful. They can also be strong-willed and spontaneous. Aries people can be driven and are very ambitious often making them over-achievers in anything they set their mind to tackle. Aries are fire signs, and so too is their personality. 

They may be quick to anger, but don't take it personally, it's just their fiery, passionate personalities showing through. Aries signs have excellent sense of humour, and they get along with almost everyone at the party. Aries can be impatient, but we love them anyway because they are devoted friends, lovers and family members – they are loyal to then end and will fight for their causes.



2. Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Taurus zodiac signs and meanings, like the animal that represents them, is all about strength, stamina and will. Stubborn by nature, the Taurus will stand his/her ground to the bitter end. But that's okay because the Taurus is also a loving, sympathetic and appreciative sign. 

The Taurus is very understanding and when we need someone to unburden ourselves to, we often share our deepest fears with the Taurians of the zodiac. Taurians are very patient, practical and efficient, they are excellent in matters of business and are also wonderful instructors/teachers. Although initially they may have their own best interest at heart, they are ultimately & endlessly generous with their time, possessions and love.



3. Gemini (May 21 - June 20)

Flexibility, balance and adaptability are the keywords for the Gemini. They are quick to grasp the meaning of a situation and act on it, often with positive effects. They tend to have a duality to their nature, and can sometimes be tough to predict how they will react. 

They can turn from hot to cold and may be prone to noticeable mood swings. However, they are generous signs with tendencies of being affectionate, and imaginative. They also inspire others easily as they seem to naturally motivate themselves – their charisma and accomplishments are infectious. Geminians are very supportive, and are especially good at promotions, sales, and driving hard bargains.



4. Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancerians love home-life, family and domestic settings. They are traditionalists, and enjoy operating on a fundamental level. They love history, and are fascinated with the beginnings of things.The moon is their ruler, so they can be a bit of a contradiction and sometimes moody.

However, they are conservative, so they'll be apt to hide their moods from others altogether. They have a reputation for being fickle, but they'll tell you that isn't true, and it's not. Cancerians make loyal, sympathetic friends. However Cancerians need alone time, and when they retreat, let them do so on their terms.



5. Leo (July 23 – August 22)

The zodiac signs and meanings of Leo is about expanse, power and exuberance. Leo's are natural born leaders, and they will let you know it as they have a tendency to be high-minded and vocal about their opinions. That's okay, because if you observe, the Leo is usually correct in his/her statements. Leo's have a savvy way of analysing a situation and executing swift judgement with a beneficial outcome. It comes from being a leader.

They are brave, intuitive, and also head-strong and wilful. Beneath their dynamic persona lies a generous, loving, sensitive nature that they do not easily share with others. They might be a bit bossy, but those who know them understand this comes from a source need to do good, not from an inflated ego.



6. Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgo's have keen minds, and are delightful to talk with, often convincing others of outlandish tales with ease and charm. Virgo's are inquisitive and are very skilled at drawing information from people. This trait also makes them naturally intuitive. Combine this with their remarkable memories, and we see an advanced, analytical personality.

However the Virgo needs balance in their lives otherwise they may become short-tempered, impatient and self-serving. Virgo's are excellent teammates in work and social activities. They work well with others, although they freely express their opinions 



7. Libra (September 23 – October 22)

As their zodiac signs and meanings would indicate, Libra's are all about balance, justice, equanimity and stability. They easily surround themselves with harmony and beauty, but sometimes go to extremes to do so if their goals are unreasonable or unhealthy. With Venus as their ruling planet, Libra's are very understanding, caring, and often the champion of underdogs. 

They have keen intuitions, but often don't give themselves enough credit for their perceptions. They can be quiet and shy if not persuaded to come out of their shell. Ironically and in spite of their introverted nature they make excellent debaters, often proving a point from out of seemingly nowhere.



8. Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

The Scorpio is often misunderstood. These personalities are bold and are capable of executing massive enterprises with cool control and confidence. They can surmount seemingly all obstacles when they put their mind to the task, and they have unshakable focus when the situation calls for it. Regardless of their bold nature, they are often secretive, but they are always observing behind their withdrawn manner. 

Being associated with a solar animal, The Scorpion, they are not withdrawn for long, and when they come out again they do so with force, vigour and determination. It is true, Scorpio's can be argumentative and pack a powerful sting, but that's simply because they see all opposition as a healthy challenge.



9. Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Here we have the philosopher among the zodiac signs and meanings. Like the Scorpio, they have great ability for focus, and can be very intense. However, they must channel their energy or they will waste time and wear themselves out going in too many directions at once. They are not very patient and expect quick results. 

However, when encountered with failure they make extreme comeback's often against incredible odds. They make loyal friends and lovers, but they do not handle commitment well as they refuse to be tied down while chasing philosophical pursuits.



10. Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Capricorn's are also philosophical signs and are highly intelligent too. They apply their knowledge to practical matters, and strive to maintain stability and order. They are good organisers, and they achieve their goals by purposeful, systematic means. They are very intuitive, although they don't share this trait with others freely. They do not deal well with opposition or criticism but a healthy Capricorn will often shrug off negative comments towards their character. 

They are patient and persevering – they know they can accomplish any task as long as they follow a their plan step-by-step. Capricorn's have broad shoulders, and typically take on others problems with aplomb. Ironically, they rarely share their own problems and tend to go through bouts of inner gloom after a spell of dwelling on these problems.



11. Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Often simple and unassuming, the Aquarian goes about accomplishing goals in a quiet, often unorthodox ways. Although their methods may be unorthodox, the results for achievement are surprisingly effective. Aquarian's will take up any cause, and are humanitarians of the zodiac. They are honest, loyal and highly intelligent. They are also easy going and make natural friendships. If not kept in check, the Aquarian can be prone to sloth and laziness. 

However, they know this about themselves, and try their best to motivate themselves to action. They are also prone to philosophical thoughts, and are often quite artistic and poetic.



12. Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Also unassuming, the Pisces zodiac signs and meanings deal with acquiring vast amounts of knowledge, but you would never know it. They keep an extremely low profile compared to others in the zodiac. They are honest, unselfish, trustworthy and often have quiet dispositions. They can be overcautious and sometimes gullible. These qualities can cause the Pisces to be taken advantage of, which is unfortunate as this sign is beautifully gentle, and generous. 

In the end, however, the Pisces is often the victor of ill circumstance because of his/her intense determination. They become passionately devoted to a cause – particularly if they are championing for friends or family.

Beauty and the beast


Thursday 21 February 2013

True love indicators

 
1. Give and take in love.
You give to the relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or expectations of getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions.


2. Pure happiness.
Just watching this special person smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard day.


3. Pain and anger.
You get terribly hurt when your lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you. You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for long because staying mad or giving them the silent treatment hurts you more.


4. Sacrifices.
You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing, even if they may never realize it.


5. The right effort.
You go to great lengths and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special.


6. You can’t ever hurt them.
When you’re truly in love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting them, emotionally or physically. Payback is a strong human instinct, but true love makes you completely selfless.


7. You keep your promises.
When you make a promise to them, you stick to your word even if this person will never find out if you broke their promise. When you experience true love, your moral conscience becomes very strong when it comes to this one special person.


8. We.
In a perfect relationship, it’s good to have your own space to grow as individuals. But at the same time, if you truly love your partner, you’d see them as a part of your life. When you think of your future, you can’t help but see them by your side.


9. You share their burden.
And you do that even if you don’t really have to. You can’t bear to see this special someone suffering. If they’re dealing with some issue, you’re always willing to offer them a helping hand even when you have your own difficulties to look into.


10. Pride and jealousy.
You beam with pride when they achieve something, even if it’s the same thing you failed at. You may get jealous of a friend who outdid you, but when you love someone, jealousy never enters the picture.


11. Suffering.
You’d be willing to suffer, just to see them happy.


12. Their perspective.
Everything you do, you keep your lover in mind and think from their perspective, be it about planning a surprise party or hanging out with your own friends after work. You don’t ever want to hurt your lover, so you always think from their point of view before making any decision that involves them in any way.

Why couples happier as their children get older


 
1. You can have quality time together.
It's been a long time since you've had the opportunity to really spend time on prioritizing your relationship rather than running carpools. Now's the time to to get back to date nights and renew your appreciation of each other.


2. You can fight in peace.
As adults, you know that conflicts are part of a normal relationship, but when kids hear you having one, it's scary. Now that they're out of the house, you can have your conflicts in private, allowing you to repair them properly so you can get closer.


3. There's far less stress.
The more people there are, the more needs there are to attend to. Once the kids are gone, the majority of the time, you can focus on the needs of each other.
 

4. There's time to relight the romance.
As kids become more independent, couples have more guilt-free "us" time. When kids are young, meeting their needs often takes a village - and when there is no village available , both parents must devote almost 100% of their energy and time to manage and meet those needs. 



5. Your activities become more mature.
Family time includes activities that adults actually enjoy versus activities that are mostly child-centered. There is nothing more amazing than taking your kids to Disneyland as a couple and realizing that you didn't even set foot in Toon Town! As your kids grow, you can share new, exciting, adventurous experiences together as a family that will strengthen your relationship like it did when you were first dating.
 

6. Less hands-on care means more time for you.
As children develop, they become more self-sufficient and require less hands-on care and less eye-to-eye time. As constant dependence lessens over time, parents aren't so tired and "consumed," and have more time for their own self-care, their relationship with each other and their own friendships.


7. There's more help around the house.
When the kids can help more around the house, couples and their families can do more of the fun stuff, together and with the kids. Many cultures recruit their kids into helping with the household chores at a very young age.


8. You can go places ... without the kids!
Couples can enjoy more date nights and travel when they feel comfortable leaving the kids behind. Whether the kids can take care of themselves or stay with a sitter or another family, a whole renewed freedom is back in their lives.


9. You gain more "me" time.
As children grow older, they become more independent and spend much less time with mom or dad. You can actually have private bathroom time! This is a gift that parents long for, as they now have time for themselves. In return, this creates a sense of calmness, emotional peace and harmony for mom and dad.


10. You can get your "sexy" back.
When you're so tired at the end of the day from running after your young children, the last thing you want to do is have sex. Many couples will say to each other, "I'll take a rain check, honey." Remember as children get older, mommy and daddy's energy returns, and so does "sexy time."


11. ... And your intimacy.
I'm not talking sexy time here, ladies. I'm talking about regaining intimacy with your partner. Time to talk, spend time together and actually having a conversation without your kid saying, "I need to go potty." As kids age, they are usually not sitting on your lap when you are trying to have a serious conversation with your spouse.


12. There's more time to spend alone.
While older children need us there, they don't want to spend so much time with us; in fact, sometimes they don't want to be seen dead with us! As children get older, we can leave them alone more and go out together again, experiencing some of the freedom we had before they came along.


13. It's easier to talk with our children about relationship matters.
While 7-year-old may find the concept of mummy and daddy time a little perplexing, a twelve-year-old will understand it a little more. Explaining to older children why you want to spend time as a couple is much easier and much more likely to be understood. And when children understand more, they are more likely to allow you what you need: time together.


14. Your kids need you less.
When children are small they need you all of the time. Most of your time and energy is devoted towards them and it's exhausting, leaving little energy for having a relationship with anyone else. As our children grow older and require less of us in all sorts of ways, we become less exhausted and more able to put energy into the relationship with our other half again.


15. You are not the center of your child's world anymore.
And when you are not the center of your child's world, it allows you to be the center of someone else's. While love is not infinite, I personally find it very hard to give all my love equally to so many people. So when your child doesn't need you in the same capacity, it allows you to fall in love with your partner all over again, in a different way.

Wednesday 20 February 2013

Conversation starters

Basic Questions

How was your day ?
Where are you from?
Do you have any big plans this week?
How big is your family / How many siblings do you have?
Tell me about your family.
Do you have any pets?
What classes are you taking in school?
What are you studying ?
Do you enjoy the classes you are taking ?
What do you want to pursue as far as a career?
Have you even been outside of the country?
Where is your favourite plaec to go on vacation?
Where are your parents from ?
what music do you like to listen to?
What are your favourite bands?
What is your favourite movie?
What is your favourite TV Show?
What was the last movie you watched in the cinema?
Where do you work?
What was your best job?
Have you been to any concerts?


Random Questions

Do you have any celebrity crushes?
What is the longest you have gond without sleeping?
Where were you on September 11, 2001?
What is the weirdest thing about you?
What would you be doing if you were not here right now?
Tell me your most embarrassing moment.
Have you ever requested a song on the radio ?
What is the last movie you watched?
What is your dream car?
What is the first thing that you notice about a girl or a guy ?
If you could go any place in the world where would you go?
What were you doing at 3.30pm yesterday?
What do you do to reduce stress?
When was the last time you saw your grandparents?
What would you do with a million dollars ?
Wal-Mart or Target?
Are there any store you refuse to shop in?
What ae some of your long term life goals ?
What are some of the rules your parents had for you as a child?


Personal Questions

When was the last time you held hands with someone?
How many people have you kissed?
What do you look for in a guy or girl?
Tell me about your first crush.
When was the last time you cried?
Tell me about your worst break up ever.
Tell me your first kiss story.
What was the mosst awkward date you have ever been to?
What is your number one turn off in a guy or a girl ?
Tell me about your perfect guy or girl.

Dating tips

1. Preparation
Preparation is key to a successful date, especially if you are the one planning the date. Take some time to plan out what you will do and where you will go. A date that is well planned will almost always go much more smoothly than one you threw together or didn't plan at all.

2. Look you best
Get your hair cut, take a shower, dress well. Maybe go shopping or wear something new. Looking
your best will help you to be confident and enjoy the date even more.

3. Think about your goals for the date
Sparking up a relationship is not the goal of every date, if you just want to have a good time and enjoy the date, make that your goal. If you are looking to spark a relationship think about how you will act and what you want to accomplish. Maybe this is the night you decide to hold her hand.

4. Make time for dating
If you never set time aside for dating it is easy to get ' too busy '. Try to make plans for your date well in advance so you have plenty of time to prepare and plan for the date and to ask the right person.

5. Enjoy dating
Most of the people you date will likely not be a great match for you. So just have fun and look for the good positive qualities your date has, while keeping in mind the qualities and traits you are looking for.

Special date asking ideas


1. Make a puzzle
  • Directions: write a message asking her/him to go to the dance/date on a poster or piece of paper. Cut the paper into pieces so that each piece fits together like a puzzle.
2. Flour and Flower
  • Directions: deliver a large bag of baking flour to the doorstep of the guy/girl you would like to ask on a date, with a note that reads, “search this flour to find the name of the guy/girl who would love to go to ______dance/date with you” (or something similar) ring the bell and hide. Wait 15 or 20 minutes, giving him/her plenty of time to dig through the flour. Ring the bell again—this time stand at the door with a vase of flowers and a note that reads, “sorry--wrong flower! Will you go to _________dance/date with me?”

3. Two Items
  • Directions: purchase to similar items, one very small, and one very large (for example a very small “fun size” candy bar and a very large “king size” chocolate bar). Leave both on the individuals’ doorstep, with a note that reads, “Will you go to the dance with me? If yes, bring me the ____(small item) if no bring me the ____(large Item)
4. print out a life size pic. of yourself, piece together the pages on a foam board backing. Have it say "will you go out with me on friday" across his chest in a conversation bubble with your number for them to reply. doorbell ditch your date to leave the pic. (have it be kneeling for less ink and added effect.)

5. make a funny movie/ music video asking them out

6. Silly string the question into their lawn or by their apartment door then doorbell ditch... dont forget your name

7. Make an anonymous facebook page discussing the pros and cons of you two going out, send it to all their friends and yours. Call her up and ask her if she wants too (after she has seen the page)


8. Fill their room with balloons and have the question in one of the balloons

9. Do a mock proposal with bended knee and rose to compliment. A bow tie would look great too

10. Put the question in cookies. Cut the letters out of cookies and line the question up on a cookie sheet, then deliver it. Pizza works too

11. Send them something that has to do with the theme of the date, have them reply with something that has to do with their favorite movie or food -- incorporate it into the date

12. Ask with chalk on the driveway... leave a boulder with the word "no" and a little rock with "yes". Tell her/him to bring their answer to you at school. They can't say no!

13. Empty a 2 liter bottle of pop, fill half way with water and freeze. Place note asking for date in a ziplock baggie. Fill the rest of the way with water and freeze. Deliver frozen bottle. Then, they have to wait for it to unfreeze before they can figure out who is asking them.

14. Put your name in a block of ice. Deliver it to her/his door with a card that reads something like this: "I would 'melt'..."

15. Kiss the ground and shower with roses

16. Directions:Put a trail of Hershey's Kisses from the door to the tub in the bathroom, and then hang some roses from the shower head, and tape the note to the wall "Now that I've kissed the ground you walk on and showered you with roses, will you go out with me?"

17. Dump a bucket of change or pennies ( if your broke) and leave a note saying "It only makes cents to......"

18. Write a note that says "You need to translate the following message"
then write "will you go on a date with me on___ at___" in a different language 

then the person has to find someone to translate before he-she knows about the date.

19.Give them butter and a bag of unpopped popcorn and leave a note saying "now that I've got you butterd up I might as well pop the question, will you go to... with me." Then leave your name.

20. Buy a thing of dibs ice cream balls and put your name somewhere inside of them. then on the lid tape a note saying "(name of person) I call dibs on you for (dance/ date)"

21. Draw outlines of people on his/her driveway with chalk and leave a note that says (name of person) all these people will die of happiness if you will go to (name of dance/date) with me. Make sure to leave your name.

22. Buy a dozen roses or her favorite flowers (or as many as it takes to spell your name and dance). Then take the letters you printed off from word processor and tie one letter to a flower. The next day give one or two flowers to each of her teachers (scrambling the letters up). In her locker that morning put a note that tells her to ask each teacher for a gift from her "lover" (or whatever name you want to use). The note must also explain what she has to do in order to figure out who is asking what. After this hunt she wont want to say no!!!!
         
23. Write the question on a piece of paper and cut it into a puzzle. Get a bunch of balloons, and put each piece in a seperate balloon. Fill them with helium, and tie them to his/her door.

24. Cut out a whole bunch of paper bananas.(or you could use real ones). place them all over his/her car then have a monkey with a note that says "I would go bananas if you would..."

25. (this one has to be pre-arranged)
Make sure the person you want to ask isn't home then go over to their house and put glow in the dark stars on their ceiling above their bed asking them out or to the dance :) Bonus points if you say something along the lines of "I made a wish upon a star..." or "I can't dream of anything better…"


26. Get a big poster of a really nice car and leave it on their doorstep with a note that says: YOU COULD WIN THIS CAR IF YOU ANSWER THIS QUESTION CORRECTLY! WILL YOU GO TO ---- WITH ME? then make a trail of arrows pointing to a little toy car with your name taped on it.

27. Plan a scavenger hunt for her around town, leading her to places that are special to you or have meaning. At each location have a challenge for her to finish in order to go to the next location. At the end, be waiting with flowers :]

28. Get an egg carton, fill it with plastic easter eggs (with little chocolate eggs inside), then write "I'd be egg-cited if you went to... with me!" Put your name (in separate letters) underneath the eggs.

29. Get some rubber duckies from the dollar store and write the letters of you name on the bottom of them. Fill their bathtub up with water and put the duckies in it with a poster saying... "I'd sure be a lucky duck if you went to the _____ with me". They'd have to unscramble the duckies to find out who asked them.

Outdoor date ideas

 
1. Make kites.

2. Go for a bike ride in your neighborhood.
 
3. Go look for luck by hunting for some four-leaf clovers.

4. Go to the park and feed the birds.
 
5. Play “Tackle Football”

6. Go to random spots in your hometown and take pictures

7. Find inner tubes and float down a nearby river

8. Go ice blocking
 
9. Go on a picnic

10. Build a sand castle

11. Glow sticks in a park

12. Go on a nature hike
 
13. Watch the sunrise

14. Pick Wild Berries

15. Play Frisbee golf

16. Geocaching

17. Find a muddy area, dress in old clothing and have a mud fight.

18. Play your favorite sport together

19. Play capture-the-flag or hide-and-seek in a park

20. Play croquet at a park
 
21. Go rollerblading

22. Go fishing

23. Wash your cars together

24. Plant something together

25. Have a water balloon fight or set up a slip-in-slide

26. Walk your dog(s)
 
27. Build a snowman

28. Find a big hill and go sledding

29. Rent a paddle boat or canoe

30. Go boating

31. Water parks

32. Outdoor Water balloon volleyball date

33. Directions: Several couples stand on each side of a volleyball net. Each couple holds a towel stretched between them. Throw and catch the water balloon using only the towels.
34. Rock Climbing
 
35. Go to the library or a book store and find books with tongue twisters, puzzles, I-Spy.
 
35. Horseback Riding is a great outdoor date idea

36. Dance in the rain

37. Hike to see waterfalls or wildflowers

38. Lie in the grass and find shapes in the clouds
 
39. Set up a lemonade stand
 
40. Have a Tin-foil dinners...cookout
 
41. Go to the park, feed the ducks, play on ALL the toys
 
42. Have a whipped Cream fight.. Buy at least 3 bottles per person, they go really fast. See who can stay the cleanest
 
43. Go to a lake and dance on the dock.
 
44. Go snorkeling at the beach

Indoor dates ideas

1. Make a movie together.

2. Have a poker tournament but instead of betting money do it with something fun and random like candy or cookies.

3. Make a homemade pizza together then sit down for a candle light dinner.

4. Have an indoor unbirthday party.

5. Go "people watching" at the mall—it can be fun to just sit and talk.

6. Go to your local animal shelter and play with the animals—Who knows, you just might find a new friend

7. Coloring pictures together is a great indoor date idea—find a fun coloring book or print coloring book pages off of the Internet

8. Finger painting—put on an apron cuz this can get messy. Find some big paper ormaybe a cardboard box and make a masterpiece together.

9. Take a trip to your local hobby shop – pick out a project to work on for the afternoon—maybe build a boat, or a rocket, something that you can play with!

10. Write a book together

11. Make outfits for each other out of newspaper then have an indoor fashion show

12. Set up a tent in your front room, sit in the tent and eat dinner on a blanket--build a fake fire, or roast marshmallows over a candle.

13. Read a book together—Choose your favorite childhood story and read aloud

14. Put on a play – choose a popular story from literature, or a movie

15. Write a song together

16. Wii Olympics -- get a group together and have a competition using Wii Sports

17. Play dress up—be sure to take lots of pictures

18. Make life lists together—all the things you want to do before you die

19. Have a Marshmallow eating contest 

20. Visit a nursing home or a rest home

21. Play Board games like Monopoly, Candy Land and Sorry

22. Tour Historical Buildings

23. Play pool, foosball, or ping-pong

24. Go visit your local planetarium

25. Play Guitar Hero or Rock Band

26. Free factory tours

27. Sit and read a children’s book together in library or bookstore

28. Have a cotton ball fight—buy several bags of cotton balls to throw at each other (or marshmallows)

29. Story time—take turns recording pieces of a story

30. Go and volunteer together at the local animal shelter

31. Go Bowling

32. Go to an IMAX movie

33. Karoke

34. Find a Paint-your-own pottery place

35. Paint each others faces

36. Go to a comedy club

37. Pots & Pans Dinner

38. Get a bunch of random toppings and have pizza crusts pre-made. Then put the toppings on the pizza.

39. Have a cookie-baking contest

Tuesday 19 February 2013

The Truth about marriage

 
1. My hubby is my best bud
If that's what you think then you're in for a super duper disappointment. Of course you do get close after several months and years of marriage, but before that you have to learn each others foibles and annoying quirks, nurse each other through bad times and disappointments, and that will take time!

2. I'd get laid everyday
Ha ha - dream on! Married couples can't have sex
everyday as they are too tired with work to find time for it. And there are so many other things to do around the house that you're lucky if you even get to cuddle!

3. Babies will bring us closer
Babies are great but the initial process of delivery and bringing up a child in the first few months is tough on your body and emotions. You'll feel that you're doing the bulk of the work and may get real angry and that may put a wall between you two. Not that parenting
isn't great, but only if you both work at it.

4. If we fight then we'll grow apart

Not true! When you enter into marriage, you're still two different people and the only way you can get issues settled is to talk about them. Some times you may get angry but unless you talk you cannot settle issues.

5. Love will keep us alive
Yes it's obviously a must have but the binding add on is commitment, companionship, and trust. The happiest couples are people who have become friends over time and have similar interests and values.

Although these are just a few of the myths which abound regarding marriage, don't feel discouraged. Consider your marriage as a partnership where you have to earn each others trust and companionship and you'll do much better!