Long distance relationship phychology

In our modern world, long distance relationsihps are becoming more and more prevalent, as the increasing need for close global relations takes a toll on many people's personal lives. As the concept of travelling for business becomes more and more of an everday norm, it is almost a prerequisite for modern relationships to undergo some form of a long distance relationship at some point in their existence.


Distance is what you make of it
A huge part of having a successful long distance relationship is the ability of the couple to 'cross' the distance. In the physical sense, this can mean how often you get to visit each other. This obviously depends on your financial means, as well as the amount of physical
distance between you.

However, this is just one facet of the long distance relationship. Two people can be an ocean and a continent apart, yet somehow still continue to be as close as they were when they were together in person. This all has to do with how you perceive the relationship and how much you communicate. Tell yourself that distance is just distance, but it is what you feel for each other and your commitment to each other that defy this separation.


Ban any unrealistic expectations
The effect of distance on a couple is very much linked with the expectations they have for a long distance relationship. Usually, expectations should correlate with the length and strength of your relationship so far. Another contributing factor is how much time you expect to spend apart. For example, if you have been with your partner for two years, it is likely that you would have high expectations going into a long distance relationship, especially on how it will pan out.

On the other hand, if you have been in a relationship with someone for only a couple of months, you should adjust your expectations of what will come out of it accordingly, so you don’t get disappointed. However, that’s not to say that shorter relationships don’t work out once they become long distance, but they do tend to be much more difficult to maintain because the couple will not have known all of the ins and outs of being together as a couple.


Different types of relationships and their survivability 
Couples that are used to each other and have been for some time may take a sudden separation much harder than a couple that is independent and more casual. This may also be a stressor on the relationship itself once it becomes a long distance one. This is where you need to choose how to mentally prepare yourself.

A solid bond is essential for any long distance relationship to have a chance of working out. Therefore, it is safe to say that relationships based on friendship, trust and open communication stand a much better chance of working out than those based on passion and spontaneity. This is just a general guide as many relationships are a combination of the two. However, it is up to you to evaluate how much you’re committed to each other, how much you trust each other and how well you communicate. Without these three essential elements, any relationship, especially a long distance one, may be rocky at best.


Psychology lessons
A huge aspect of having a successful long distance relationship has to do with both your mindset and your partner’s mindset. In short, a lot of it has to do with psychology and how you mentally deal with the distance. It’s essential to have realistic expectations, especially when it comes to having contact and visits. However, once you are in the right frame of mind, you’re set to try it out and, hopefully, keep it working.